I happened to mention during counselling that my goal was to be the perfect wife. (We do not use M/s terms in counselling). So of course the question was raised, what is the perfect wife? I came out with a few things but would like to spend more time exploring that here.
The perfect wife (thrall) is:
Obedient above all else. Submits to Master in everything. (Epheisans 5:22-24)
Always thinks of Master before herself. Puts his needs, wants, and desires before her own. Will look out for Masters best interests.
Is trustworthy. Will do what she says she is going to do.
Trusts Master to care for her. Does not demand her own needs met.
Makes sure all domestic duties are completed. Master should never have to think about these things.
Anticipates what Master needs and has it ready for him when he asks.
Makes sure purchases are made on time. Master should never have to go without.
Always works hard and completes tasks to the best of her abilities.
Available sexually at all times. This means proper hygene and dress as well. Knows what Master likes.
Is fun, playful, cheerful and kind.
Does not complain, bicker or demand.
Develops interests that are compatible with Masters.
She acts approperiately even when Master is not around as her behavior is seen as a reflection on him.
She is able to make good decisions in Masters absence.
10 Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates. ” Prov 31:10-31
